Jamel Holmes (Digital Content Creator)

Jamel Holmes is a digital content creator.

Born and raised in Queens, New York, Holmes grew up in the projects where life quickly hardened him, but also expedited his maturation process.

“I had to learn a lot of grown-up things at a very young age, but it prepared me for the real world,” Holmes says.

An introvert who prefers to be away from the spotlight, growing up Holmes didn’t always have great communication skills.

“Basketball was my life, and I didn’t start to develop strong social skills until I was in college,” admits Holmes, who studied exercise science at Dutchess Community College in Poughkeepsie, a sparsely populated town located two hours north of New York City.

But like many students enrolled in higher education, Holmes felt compelled to explore a career outside of his area of study.

In Holmes’ case, he had always been fascinated with exploring the dynamics between men and women, and as a man who routinely fielded questions from peers about how to approach and converse with women, he figured he could positively impact more people by creating content about this very same subject.

“Even today, a lot of guys are looking for answers when it comes to how to interact with women,” says Holmes, who two years ago started a YouTube channel that has since steadily grown in popularity.

“I already had a lot of those answers, so I wanted to share what I knew and try to genuinely help men and women.”

With his content, Holmes primarily focuses on imparting wisdom to the aimless generation of young men who frequently turn to their smartphones for advice.

As Holmes has published more content, he’s learned that many young men are struggling in a variety of areas, and that they often are moving through the world ill-informed of strategies that could make their professional and romantic lives more optimal.

“A lot of men have a communication problem,” Holmes asserts.  

“They also struggle with developing an identity and understanding their value as a man. Consequently, many men become complacent and unattractive to the women they are dating, or they got into a relationship/marriage that they never should have been in.”

In a recent video, Holmes also discussed the downfall of masculinity, succinctly highlighting how modern men are not positioning themselves to achieve success, but also how they have been led astray by a society that no longer emphasizes the need for competent men.

“It’s not necessarily men’s fault that they’re less masculine because there are societal influences that have indirectly caused them to be less masculine,” Holmes notes, citing the exorbitant cost of living and a fledgling education system as two key factors that have disaffected men.

“And for a lot of guys, they don’t think about these things because they’re so focused on going through the grind, and so they just need someone to wake them up.”

In recent years, a lot of men have become more aware of the societal influences that affect their daily lives, but that doesn’t mean that they proactively alter their behavior to adjust to the ever-changing world.

That’s why what Holmes does is so crucial, because his content offers actionable advice that centers around personal responsibility and one taking inventory of just where they’re at so that they can establish realistic expectations for moving forward.  

“For the young guy who is struggling, before he gets around anyone else, he has to be able to hold himself accountable, otherwise nothing is going to change,” Holmes says.

Holmes is also a big proponent of cultivating a network of high-performing peers who motivate and encourage each other to become the best versions of themselves.

“Getting around people who are going to hold you accountable is crucial,” Holmes mentions.

“Peer pressure is a real thing, so if you are around a group of guys who are putting in the work and getting results, then over time, if you follow suit, it’s statistically likely that you will achieve a similar outcome.”

Holmes then says that if these two competencies are established, their chances of attracting quality women will improve.

At the same time, men would also benefit from making a concerted effort to better connect and relate to women.  

“Men should do a better job of understanding women, and they can do this by studying men who are actually successful with women; men who are married, or are in healthy relationships,” Holmes explains.

“Because being able to attract women is a completely different thing from being able to retain a quality woman, so if you are looking at people who are in healthy relationships, that will give you a good template to work off.”

Looking ahead, Holmes concedes there is still much he has to learn about relationships, content creation, and life in general, but the Queens native also believes his content will get more exciting as his platform grows and he continues to refine his approach.  

“In five years, I hope to have established a network where my platform is not just me conducting interviews or creating content, but also there will be a team of on-camera talent and behind-the-scenes editors who are helping me produce engaging and compelling content,” Holmes explains.

“Throughout this process though, the goal will always be to offer insights that help both men and women, and ultimately assist them in living more fulfilling lives.” QS

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